Sarah Parmenter

Speaking up.

Six months ago, something happened to me that I kept quiet. Some of my best friends in the industry knew it was happening and tried to help as much as they could. I started writing a post back then about what happened, I got halfway through and found it too much. Coming back, maybe with a stronger disposition because of what happened with my Mum, I now want to share what occurred. It’s come to my attention that there’s a lot of females in this industry suppressing stuff that is happening to them, for fear of backlash or just wanting a quiet life. It also might answer some questions about another point. I’ll come to that later.

Here’s what I started to write back in August…

It’s with great sadness I have to speak up about something. I’m not sad myself, nor am I particularly hurt – but being scared into silence is not an option. The reason I’m sad is that the person involved with what I’m about to speak up about, could be a member of our community. Infact at the moment, everything is pointing to the fact they are. They are currently feeding off the suppression of this topic, so I’m writing publicly about it.

This week – someone decided to upload fake porn pictures of me to the internet – when I say fake I don’t mean my head stuck on someone’s body, but lookalikes or in some cases, just blonde girls with blue eyes and terrible taste in underwear. I digress. This is someone with far too much time on their hands and someone with a definite grudge. I’ve taught myself over the years to take the rough with the smooth and develop a thick skin, I’ve been free of online trouble for a while and rightly or wrongly, I was kind of expecting my run of luck to end. To say it caught me off guard, would be a lie, but to see how low someone would stoop, did. However, it’s amazing how resilient and detached you can be when you know you’ve been that boring your entire life that you’ve never taken nude pictures of yourself.

The interesting thing about what this individual did was show themselves as wanting to try and damage my professional integrity with blatant trolling. It all started a week ago from the date of writing this. I started to receive emails from creepy guys that eventually traced back to a site where various pictures had been posted to. The pictures were uploaded alongside my personal email address, (old) hometown and a screenshot of my Twitter account. There was also an open forum for comments at the bottom, which I’m sure you can imagine the type of things posted there.

This is where I stopped in August, and here is where I will continue on in my words now…

The timing of everything was carefully executed, they knew I was speaking at one of our industry’s best known conferences, ‘An Event Apart’ – they started to try and spam the feed ‘A Feed Apart’ on the day of my talk – they then tried, unsuccessfully, to post to the ‘An Event Apart’ Facebook feed during my talk, they setup a fake Twitter account and tried to at-reply my employers for that conference as well as high-profile twitter users I was associated with, to ensure they knew about the pictures and their existence.

If you were at ‘An Event Apart’ in Austin last year, you might remember Jeffrey jumping up on stage and giving one of the best, off-the-cuff speeches I’ve ever heard, purely because he had only been told seconds before what was likely to happen during my talk. He said (paraphrased) “The feed is prone to trolls and spam at the best of times, at any point today, if you see anything derogatory about any of our speakers, please ignore it, do not engage with them. The conference is about everyone in this room, not outside, let’s keep it that way”. At that point, I couldn’t believe it had even gone through my head to have a stiff upper lip and try and soldier on without them knowing what was happening behind the scenes. I felt ashamed; that I was almost letting them down by being a speaker and bringing all this hassle to their conference. During my talk, I’d be lying if I said I wasn’t worried at what the hundreds of faces, lit up by glowing laptops, were seeing or reading about me or what might have slipped the net. A feeling I would never wish on my worst enemy. Jeffrey, Eric and the team handled it with such aplomb and such care towards me as well, I’ll be forever thankful.

We never found out who did it.

This brings me to my last point. There’s many questions around why there aren’t more females speaking in this industry. I can tell you why, they are scared. Everytime I jump on stage, I get comments, either about the way I look, or the fact that I’m the female, the token, the one they have to sit through in order for the males to come back on again. One conference, I even had a guy tweet something derogatory about me, not 30 seconds into my talk, only for me to bring up the point he had berated me for not bringing up, not a minute later – which caused him to have to apologise to my face after public backlash. I’ve had one guy come up to me in a bar and say (after explaining he didn’t like my talk)… “no offence, I just don’t relate to girls speaking about the industry at all, I learn better from guys”. I could write a book on inappropriate things that have been said to me at conferences about girls in the industry, so much so, it’s become a running joke with fellow speakers. I know other girls who could also chip in a fair few chapters but, underneath the humour sometimes found in these situations, lies a very real problem.

It’s no great secret that girls are a minority in this industry, you only have to look at the queues for the toilets at any conference, however, it’s forgotten that it’s not about female speakers, it’s about finding female speakers who have enough of a thick skin to want to stand up infront of an audience of twitter-trigger-happy males and public speak. That’s an entirely different kettle of fish. Then ontop – when you finally feel comfortable with speaking, you get put into a big black pot and tarnished with the label “same old face”. This happened to me on my third ever speaking engagement, third? I was tarnished as a “same old face”. Since then it’s become water off a ducks back – I’m not going to let a label stop me from developing and growing my speaking skills, I’m by no means perfect and still have a lot to learn. We should be encouraging anyone who shows an aptitude or love for sharing their knowledge with the community.

The wheels are in motion for something I hope will address this, I will share soon and hope you will all support me in this venture.

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313 Comments

  1. Posted February 7, 2013 at 11:58 pm | Permalink

    It upsets me to hear (mostly men) people saying that women’s rights are a thing of the past and that everything is equal now. Especially when it’s still so common and almost acceptable to belittle women based on something sexually related or how they are somehow inferior.

    Without equal and mutual respect there will never be an equal footing in any industry between the sexes, classes, races and sexual leaning either!

    I’m sorry you have had to go through this and good on you for having the courage to speak up and fight this. Hopefully others will find courage too.

    And don’t worry there are a lot of men like me who think this kind of behaviour is nothing short of disgusting. Although I have never considered myself sexist I have learned a lot from my partner who has her masters in gender studies and I wish education in these fields could be given to all at school age.

  2. Tom
    Posted February 8, 2013 at 11:49 am | Permalink

    Jesus, this is scary. Sorry to hear about your saboteur. The game industry, too, is disgustingly rife with this sort of thing as of late.

  3. Brad Shaw
    Posted February 8, 2013 at 6:31 pm | Permalink

    I saw a comment earlier that annoyed me. Something about being embarrassed to be a dev. This isn’t just a problem in “this industry”, it’s a global problem. A human race problem.

    While western society has made many advances in women’s rights in the last century, there’s still a disparity in equality in the work place from salaries and advancements, to various forms of harassment.

    Meanwhile, there’s a huge portion of the world where women are still seen as second class citizens, and in some places don’t have the right to vote, drive a car, or even show their face in public.

    This “industry” draws people together from all over the globe, so you not only have to deal with the immature losers locally who can’t help but mess with people, but also those from places where women aren’t seen as equals and colleagues, but as property.

    Maybe in another 100 years things will have changed. Probably not :( In the meantime you’re just going to have to keep your chin up soldier on. Be tough as nails and don’t take shit from anyone.

  4. Posted February 8, 2013 at 9:01 pm | Permalink

    Thanks for sharing your painful story. Despite our “progress” in moving towards “equality”, women are still objectified across many levels.

    One telling proof is when people call women a “B**CH” — almost always they inject a qualifier in there — you Dumb B**Ch, Fat B**ch, Ugly B**ch, etc. When men are called a name, it’s usually just A$$H*** – no qualifier involved. To me, inserting the qualifier is about de-powering and de-valuing them, and trying to take them down another notch.

    When I hear the use of adjective qualifiers like that, it speaks volumes to me about the compelling need people have to put women down in ways they would never do to men.

    And you’re exactly right about women being brave enough to put themselves out there – because we know what’s coming when we do.

    Thanks for being bold enough to speak of this subject, and I wish you blue skies in your online pursuits.

  5. Posted February 8, 2013 at 9:22 pm | Permalink

    Thank you so much for posting this! I’m very sorry you’ve been put through this. It’s so ridiculous that things like this are still happening. I appreciate you not keeping silent

  6. Posted February 8, 2013 at 9:38 pm | Permalink

    Had no idea this stuff actually happened – so sad to hear your story. All this stuff with the timing of it all is really, really depressing. Kind of sets them/him apart from being a regular ol’ asshole. That’s just plain sick.

    All the best.

  7. Posted February 8, 2013 at 10:44 pm | Permalink

    I don’t get it. This industry is about constant learning, iteration and always figuring out a better way to do something. Why does that not extend to character? I’ve been doing the web since ’94 and it’s always been a boys club, but that’s no excuse for this type of sickening behavior.

    If any industry has the built-in DNA to change these dated views of women, it’s this one. Guys, seriously. You seem to forget that the most important person in your life was a women.

    Sarah, I applaud you for getting up on that stage and speaking, teaching, and helping us all learn how to do things better. You clearly have more balls than the bottomfeeder who attempted to trash your reputation and honor.

  8. Judy Wilson
    Posted February 9, 2013 at 4:16 am | Permalink

    Thank you so much for summoning the courage and energy to post this. As a woman in tech, I’ve suffered through condescension from a fair number of men (and a few women) — I’ve often thought it’s served me well to be 40+ (the adolescent dude sexist factor seems to decrease the older I get). i also grew up with 3 rowdy brothers, so I learned how to hold my own early on. Grim what you went through. But what sad sacks these bullying types are.

  9. Will
    Posted February 9, 2013 at 7:29 am | Permalink

    While it is only fair to say that you definitely are easy on the eyes, I think that a majority of the crowds and followers have been drawn to your professionalism, intellect and eloquent delivery. You are a well justified peer in this movement for great user interaction and experience. I know you have thick skin, but as usual, the few rotten apples have gotten all the air time. Most creative, innovative and intellectuals are far more conscience than this – well, at least in public or on social. Lol. Thank you for making us all aware. Keep the issue in front so that we can continue to create a balance.

  10. Kim Krause Berg
    Posted February 9, 2013 at 8:04 pm | Permalink

    For those think this stuff isn’t really happening, it just hasn’t happened to you yet. I’ve had death threats, mashed up photos, public accusations of sex acts I apparently did, and more. I had to notify my kids schools when I got the threat that my kids would be taken and met with my neighbors to keep a watch out. Held a family meeting with my parents on what to do if something should happen to me. Got legal advice and began copying and saving every threat at every source. Reported emails, IPS, and names I knew them. I still write and speak because after 15 or so years, this is how it is for women in tech who are visible. There is also an army of peers, including men, who will circle around and defend a peer who is under attack. Thanks for writing. You are not alone.

  11. Posted February 10, 2013 at 12:50 am | Permalink

    This is very disappointing to hear. Perhaps I’ve been lucky — or maybe it’s different in different regions — but I’ve been fortunate to work with many women in our industry and have never heard of any such behavior by men. Don’t take that as me doubting your account, btw. Not at all.

    I’m sorry this happened to you and it’s abhorrent behavior by whomever was the perpetrator. They should be ashamed of themselves.

    I’d like to think the individuals in our community and industry are smarter and more evolved than that. Sadly that’s obviously not the case for all of us.

  12. Posted February 10, 2013 at 1:11 am | Permalink

    thank you for sharing Sarah! I have a few similar stories. I run a SEO agency and have been speaking at conferences for the past 6 years, and I still get offensive and stupid comments. I once had a guy tell me after a conference “yeah ok so maybe all the guys want to sleep with you, but do you actually know anything about SEO”, it still makes my blood boil. At the last conference I spoke I got really bad reviews and I worked my ass off, I know its mostly because I’m a women, a guy can cone up speaking just after me, say exactly the same and everyone will be like ” wow”. But like you, I will keep going – they will not define me, what i do will.

  13. Boyd Waters
    Posted February 11, 2013 at 2:47 am | Permalink

    First: THANK YOU VERY MUCH FOR SPEAKING OUT.

    A dear friend of mine decided to terminate her PhD in Physics rather than face the toxic environment at her institution. Eye rolling. Teasing. Jokes. Even sabotaged experiments…

    Our kids are learning to talk about bullying and teasing, how important it is to get rid of this.. this.. scary insanity.

    While the tech changes faster than the culture, I can hope that we are better at the tech than the bullies, that we can spread the truth faster.

  14. Carla
    Posted February 13, 2013 at 2:42 am | Permalink

    Thank you so much for speaking up. There are so many subtle ways that women are oppressed, often including “not saying anything because she doesn’t want a fight”.

    Well, it’s said that you can’t please everyone. We’re going to have to fight at some point; why not now?

  15. Posted February 13, 2013 at 6:55 am | Permalink

    Yup. Been there, done that. Most recently was two weeks ago, at a conference at which I’m on the conference committee.

    I’ve had plenty of women tell me that they have spoken at a conference before and had something happen, or that they’ve had it happen to a friend, and they just don’t want to deal with it. I understand it, but it’s so demoralizing that people who are well-qualified and have lots of interesting experience and expertise to share are bowing out of it because they just don’t want to have to deal with having their technical competence called into question just because they’re female, or having completely inappropriate comments shouted out during their talk (which was my most recent experience), or having to see the commentary on Twitter about their looks and not their content, or having to read blog posts that call them insipid without actually saying what it was about their talk that needed improvement. I get why people choose not to open themselves up to that. It shouldn’t be the case, but it’s the reality of the situation today.

  16. Posted February 13, 2013 at 12:51 pm | Permalink

    As a female administrator (linux, mainly) I get the “Please get me to a male tech” pretty often. This generally comes when it’s not an answer they are happy with.
    It is unacceptable that this is the default response for some people. To think that my gender somehow prevents me from learning. “Couldn’t read my books, boobs in the way!”
    I’m involved in both the gaming industry as well, both as a gamer and a developer. I’ve found there is no end to the sexist remarks. And unfortunately, these are the men who should be revolutionizing our thinking and the methods.
    Instead, they hurl us back into the past.

  17. Posted February 13, 2013 at 5:30 pm | Permalink

    I’ve been a female manager in tech for ten years now and barely bothered to try to speak (not from fear but from not having the opportunities especially company support to travel), but reading this, I think I need to get out there and represent. I’m in testing, not development, but maybe it’s time to try a little harder to make a place for all of us at the table.

  18. Posted February 19, 2013 at 8:05 pm | Permalink

    That really sucks. Sorry to hear about your bad community experience(s).

  19. Posted February 20, 2013 at 4:19 pm | Permalink

    Sarah, I’m very proud to have a woman like you as reference in this sector. Courage, as women we have a long way to go and get victories, you will always be an inspiration to the rest, men and women. Greetings from Madrid.

  20. Posted February 20, 2013 at 4:20 pm | Permalink

    Sarah, I’m very proud to have a woman like you reference in this sector. Courage, as women we have a long way to go and get victories, you will always be an inspiration to the rest, men and women. Greetings from Madrid.

  21. Jono
    Posted February 21, 2013 at 12:42 pm | Permalink

    I am glad you shared this – I find it very shocking. I suspect it is the result of the environment or location where you are well known. I couldn’t imagine this happening where I live in Charleston, SC… but it probably does.

  22. Posted February 26, 2013 at 6:15 am | Permalink

    It pisses me off that this sort of thing still happens. I’m inclined to listen to valuable knowledge regardless of the source. Male or female, it shouldn’t matter. If you have something awesome to share, you should be encouraged to share it.

    That anyone would discount your experience because you happen to be female is odd. You’d think we’d be past that sort of thing by now. The faked pictures fiasco is surreal. I thought we left that in middle school, but hell, I guess that’s what happens when people are only biologically adults.

    Do they not realize they’re putting a stranglehold on the free exchange of ideas that defines our industry when they pull this kind of bullshit, because they’re making a not at all trivial number of fellow designers and devs feel unwelcome?

  23. Posted March 2, 2013 at 11:33 am | Permalink

    Sorry to hear about your troubles with bullies. It sounds like the whole thing was motivated by jealousy to me. You are clearly dedicated to the craft of web development since your online portfolio shows you are clearly passionate about what you do. Work like that you produce takes great skill and tenacity. I’m just starting out in web design and development, attempting to theme WordPress sites and its not a trivial activity.

    Furthering your skills as a public speaker which is a by product of your passion for the industry shouldnt be sabottaged by this sort of behavior. An attractive person should be able to go about their business without having to put up with this school boy bully nonsense.

  24. Posted March 14, 2013 at 12:37 am | Permalink

    Thank you for sharing and for standing up. Regardless of your gender or what you look like, I admire your work and respect you as a professional. Others should do the same. And I actually skipped the AEA here in Atlanta to go out of my way and travel to San Diego specifically to hear your talk and to take Luke’s workshop. So you’re not the same old face, you’re sharing new and valuable information that’s cutting edge and I’m blessed to learn from it. Keep up the great work and keep breaking down walls!

  25. Posted March 19, 2013 at 12:27 am | Permalink

    Thanks for sharing this. It’s super courageous of you. If you hadn’t done this lots of people including me would actually not be aware of how bad it is.

    This has absolutely no place on or offline and shouldn’t be tolerated by anybody. Let’s keep our ears pricked and be vigilant!

  26. Ian T
    Posted March 19, 2013 at 12:30 pm | Permalink

    As a father of two daughters, who constantly encourages them to strive to do their best & be heard, I’m shocked… this cannot go on!

  27. Posted April 9, 2013 at 4:36 pm | Permalink

    Like others have said, thank you so much for sharing. It’s people like you with the courage to stand up that will help change the world. I think one of the most important books men and women should read is ‘Leadership of the Sexes’ by Barbara Annis and Michael Gurian. It talks about the differences in how we communicate and why we need to embrace the value and style each brings to the proverbial table.

    And we need more women in positions of power. Another article I read recently talked about how companies with women in leadership positions and represented on the boards performed better than those run solely by men. So shame on those who try to keep you and others down, and kudos to you for speaking up.

  28. Posted April 11, 2013 at 9:31 am | Permalink

    I haven’t kept up with your posts and tweets recently after taking time off work to have a baby and so have only just seen this post and what has been happening.I am shocked anyone would even be bothered to waste so much time being so malicious and targeting you like this!

    You are a great inspiration to other young woman like me trying to better themself and make a career our of this industry and its awful this has happened to rock your confidence.

    I hope this idiot realises there could be serious conciquences to their actions and it is not ok to behave like this to anyone.

  29. Posted May 9, 2013 at 6:15 am | Permalink

    It takes great courage to speak out for matters as such. I applaud you for being courageous and bringing up this issue. I am sure this will help all the girls out there who face similar challenges.

  30. James Read
    Posted January 17, 2014 at 10:18 pm | Permalink

    I am sorry you have had to go through this. For such a young and creative industry, i am shocked some men are still so narrow-minded and old-fashioned.

    I am not a web professional – i work in the City in insurance. However, i do design and code websites for friends small business and my personal sites.

    I’m in Grays, so you are local and a real inspiration to me. I have seen your articles in magazines and blogs. To me, you are not just one of the top females, but one of the leading people in the industry, male or female.

    Keep up the good work.

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  41. [...] but the attention that women receive is especially disturbing. Designer and speaker Sarah Parmenter recalled how a troll posted fake pornography pictures of her to a conference Twitter feed as she was [...]

  42. […] and, perhaps most shockingly of all, well-respected industry speakers have been subjected to some horrendous and inexcusable sexual harassment. With industry heavyweights like Happy Cog, Paul Boag, Andy Rutledge and Uncle Bob also chipping in […]

  43. […] this is why women aren’t prevalent in tech? Or this. Or […]

  44. By An Open Letter to Women in Technology on November 11, 2013 at 7:48 pm

    […] February 4, 2013, a Web and UI Designer by the name of Sarah Parmenter (@sazzy) wrote a powerful and moving blog post that talked about abuse she had suffered when doing […]

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